"dear sir, I cannot but will try..."
If you are keen and can go without the phablet and telly and don't want to buy a house with cash [not in five years now but ten instead, mind], because sacrificing time from family like they could a few years ago is what they will have to do. That is, if they can afford a partner!
BTW- I saw a dpco on Gre Vidal th eother night- boy, is he into conspiracy theories!!